What to Expect from a Trauma-Aware Bodywork Session With Me
“Is it okay if I touch you?”
I asked my client, J, who I’ve seen about two times now. She laughs and says, “I hope you do!” then shares about the aches and pains she’s been dealing with after giving birth. I tell her that’s the way I practice—even though I’ve already sought her consent via a client intake form, it’s still important for me to check in and ensure it’s a yes before I lay my hands on her.
J proceeds to remove her clothes, at which point I tell her I’ll step outside to give her privacy. “EVERYONE has seen everything, I’m so touched out!” she exclaims. I tell her I understand but will still step outside. A few minutes later, I knock on the door to ask if I can come in, explaining that it’s important for me to respect her body boundaries. As much as she is comfortable changing in my presence, I also want to uphold my own professional boundaries as a bodyworker.
J’s story is a common occurrence in my practice, but I never tire of explaining why I work the way I do. In Singapore and many parts of Asia, I’ve noticed that people often aren’t used to exercising personal agency when it comes to massage or bodywork—practices that can leave one feeling quite vulnerable.
Think back to a time when you received a massage or body treatment and felt uncomfortable with the pressure or positioning but stayed silent for fear of embarrassing the therapist or yourself.
Sound familiar?
1) Creating a Supportive Environment
What can you expect from a trauma-aware bodywork session with me? For starters, I always share with new clients how I view the mind-body connection and emphasise the need to feel safe first. I ask how they are arriving in the space and give them room to share any relevant experiences that might impact our session. We then discuss boundaries, comfort levels, and any specific concerns they may have.
2) Consent-Based, Inquiry-driven and a Client-Led Approach
One of the core principles of trauma-aware bodywork is active consent. Before any hands-on work begins, I explain the techniques I plan to use so that nothing comes as a surprise. Repetition is key—while some clients may find it unnecessary, others appreciate that I narrate each step, especially when switching sides. I check in before moving to another part of the body and encourage clients to communicate their needs—whether adjusting pressure, modifying techniques, or pausing the session. This inquiring processes and client-led approach fosters trust and ensures they feel safe and respected throughout the experience.
3) Gentle Techniques Tailored to the Nervous System
Depending on their needs, I may shift away from deep tissue work and use gentle fascial releases to help regulate the nervous system. Understanding the mind-body connection is crucial—bodywork isn’t just about relieving physical tension; it also supports emotional release and nervous system regulation.
4) Mind-Body Connection and Emotional Awareness
Physical touch can sometimes bring up unexpected emotional responses. If I notice a client showing signs of emotional processing, I pause and ask if they need space or if they’d like me to continue. Some describe tingling, shaking, or warmth—I assure them these are normal responses. If they need to step off the table to wash their hands or face, or take a moment for themselves, I always accommodate that.
5) Flexible and Adaptive Sessions
Some clients prefer to remain clothed, request that only certain areas be touched, or ask for verbal updates throughout the session. I respect their preferences as long as my professional boundaries are also maintained.
Integration and Aftercare
After the session, I may offer personalised exercises that clients can do at home to extend the benefits of bodywork. I remind them that these exercises are optional—some prefer to do them independently, while others like to practice them with me. If I feel additional support is needed, I may ask if they have a therapist or mental health worker and suggest following up with them.
Being Trauma-Aware Serves Me, Too
I can’t say I’ve perfected the art of integrating trauma awareness into bodywork, but it has been an integral part of my self-care practice. Learning to work within my professional scope is an ongoing journey, especially as I wear multiple hats—including yoga instruction and doula work. I’m continually seeking ways to make my sessions more attuned to what my clients need. Currently, I’m studying the neuroscience of safety, and it’s been an eye-opening experience!
I’d love to hear from you—are you also exploring trauma-aware practices? Or do you have experiences with bodywork you’d like to share? Let’s connect!
